WHY do we want WHAT we want?

If your WHY is big enough, then your WHAT and HOW is easy

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Very often we start the new year with so much vigour and excitement. We tell others about the things that we are going to do, as well as the things that we want. Perhaps a new car, a new house or a new job, or start our own business.

We tell others what we are going to do and how we are going to do it, and expect a vote, or affirmation, an agreement of some sort, that we are special or different, because its human nature, after all, isn’t it?

Have you considered the reason for making the change or WHY you want what you want?

I too were stuck in a corporate job for many years, my health started deteriorating, I was stressed and became unhappy, but all I could think of was what and how am I going to pay the bills! Until one moment the “What and How” did not agree with my “Why” and I jumped off that verge! I took the leap with much faith and trusted my deep inner fire, my souls calling, to do what I love and am passionate about which far outweighs working for a paycheck. I now also have more quality time with my family, and time for taking my dog for walks on the beach with my grandchildren.

What we want to do or to achieve in life has to be something to strive for that is bigger than you. We all want to matter and to make a difference in the world, at work, or in someone else's life.

Every day you make a choice about how you show up in this world – in the workplace, in your business, in life, in your family circle. Some of us show up because of what we do, our job titles and roles. We measure our success by the number of product features we build, how many goods we sell, how many client calls we make or how many clients we serve. Others show up because of how they do things, how they process and apply their minds. Their success is measured in quality and precision, speed and efficiency, even the depth of client and other relationships. The group that touches me the most is the third, and smallest group – are people who show up for a distinct reason. They have a cause that drives them, a belief that inspires them. They want to challenge the status quo, help people find the power to do what matters to them, show others how to reach their full potential… For them, success is fulfilling their purpose. People with a big WHY. Bigger than themselves, bigger than money!

My “What is your Why” corporate workshop is based on the principle that ‘If your WHY is big enough, then your WHAT and HOW is easy”. One such workshop was held last year to a group of leaders who seeks to advance human rights and democracy in this broader context. Here the attendees were shown that the most successful leaders, managers and people in the world have a “WHY” for what they are doing. It is the passion and reason for their work here on earth; no matter what they do!

Your WHY is based on the principles that knit together the activities of your life into a unified purpose?

To get the ball rolling, ask yourself these questions;

Is my WHY aligned with my inner fire?

What profound impact would you like to have on other people’s lives?

What is my believe statement? (I believe that …)

There was a young boy, who went to his dad, and asked him … ‘Dad, what is the Secret to Happiness?  His Dad replied, I think you should go and ask your Mom... she’s the clever one…His mom replied… If you really want to know the meaning of happiness, then you should go up to the top of the hill where the rich wise man lives….

The young man wandered through the desert for forty days until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of a mountain. There lived the sage that the young man was looking for.

However, instead of finding a holy man, our hero entered a room and saw a great deal of activity; merchants coming and going, people chatting in the corners, a small orchestra playing sweet melodies, and there was a table laden with the most delectable dishes of that part of the world.

The wise man talked to everybody, and the young man had to wait for two hours until it was time for his audience.

The Sage listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit but told him that at that moment he did not have the time to explain to him the Secret of Happiness.

He suggested that the young man take a stroll around his palace and come back in two hours’ time.

“However, I want to ask you a favour” he added, handling the boy a teaspoon, in which he poured two drops of oil. “While you walk, carry this spoon and don’t let the oil spill.”

The young man began to climb up and down the palace staircases, always keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. At the end of two hours, he returned to the presence of the wise man.

“So,” asked the sage, “did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room? Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardeners took ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”

Embarrassed, the young man confessed that he had seen nothing. His only concern was not to spill the drops of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

“So, go back and see the wonders of my world,” said the wise man. “You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.”

Now more at ease, the young man took the spoon and strolled again through the palace, this time paying attention to all the works of art that hung from the ceiling and walls.
He saw the gardens, the mountains all around the palace, the delicacy of the flowers, the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche. Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.

“But where are the two drops of oil that I entrusted to you?” asked the sage.

Looking down at the spoon, the young man realized that he had spilled the oil.

“Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,” said the sage of sages.
“The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at all the wonders of the world and never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.”

So, I have to ask you dear readers; How do you go through life? Do you take in everything around you while on life’s journey?

Success then… is holding on to those two drops of oil, but not placing our focus and concentration entirely on the oil. If we do so, we will be missing the beautiful sounds, amazing sights, enchanting smells, delectable tastes and invigorating feelings of being alive. Life is about taking in EVERYTHING!

When you live truly in the present and in GRATITUDE; you are already living a BIG PART OF YOUR WHY!

To book a Personal Development Session or Corporate Workshop with Naomi Kieswetter please logon to her website www.naomikieswettercoach.co.za or email her on naomikieswetter@gmail.com

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